What Is ‘Fluid Bonding’ And Should I Even Consider It?
Originally Published on Aug 24, 2020 Sex and love | By Gabrielle Kassel
Casually skip the condom or dam? That’s called a terrible idea. Intentionally buck barriers, though, and it’s called fluid bonding.
Soooo, what gives? Below, experts explain what fluid bonding is, along with the benefits and risks, plus how to have safer sex with your partner.
Wait up, what is fluid bonding anyway?
“Fluid bonding is a term that describes a pre-established agreement between two or more people to intentionally go without barriers,” says Luna Matatas, sex educator, and creator of Peg The Patriarchy. That means actively choosing to go without condoms, internal condoms, dental dams, finger cots, and gloves, not just forgetting or playing it loose once in a while.
“For some, becoming fluid-bonded marks one step towards increased seriousness in a relationship,” Matatas explains. “For others, removing barriers during sex is a way to cement a milestone.” Say, becoming monogamous.
The truth is, many people go this route because they “don’t like” condoms, but that’s kinda a cop-out, tbh. “Anyone who says barriers make sex worse simply hasn’t found the right one yet,” says Felice Gersh, MD, author of PCOS SOS: A Gynecologist’s Lifeline to Naturally Restore Your Rhythms, Hormones, and Happiness. “There are SO many different types of condoms on the market that, with research, you’ll be able to find one that enhances sex.” (Personally, my faves are: LifeStyles SKYN Original Condoms, Black Nitrile Gloves, and Lorals Panties Dental Dams).