“I want to come at this straight. I want to bring my own baggage and unpack it in front of you. I am one of the Bashful Bunch—or at least I’m still working my way out of membership in the group. To many of my friends, I am a walking contradiction. I appear extroverted and at ease with myself, which for the most part I am. I have taught women’s studies in college and have spent the better part of the last decade facilitating women’s groups and writing books on women’s empowerment. Yet, I still revert to the early conditioning of my Middle Eastern culture when it comes
to matters of sex.

I believe that every woman should have the opportunity at some point in her life to set down and unpack her sexual baggage among those she trusts and respects. That is the first step to reclaiming our bodies, our health, our pleasure, and our wholeness as feminine beings.
It is because of that belief that I am grateful for the work that Dr. Sherry does every day. She has devoted her life to the female body—how to talk about it, protect it, and value it. In this book, Dr. Sherry ventures into topics about which most of us women are curious to know and understand but may be too embarrassed to verbalize.”

—Angella Nazarian Author & International Speaker


All of us are a product of our upbringing—parents, siblings, best friends, partners past and present—and, for some of us, our religion. Often times, what’s forgotten in that upbringing is the encouragement to explore one’s sexuality. Ironic, really, because sexuality is as part of our lives as eating and sleeping (the companion to this chapter is Purring V, but first, read on). The obvious solution to this omission is the pursuit of your own personal sexual revelations. It’s time to take that bashful vagina in hand (literally) and lead the exploration.

Bashful V? I’m talking about the inability to have or ask for the sexual pleasure associated with vaginal stimulation. Whether you’ve never had an orgasm, or you have certain sexual or emotional issues that get in the way of intimacy, there are things you can do to acquaint your Bashful V with some fun.

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