“Maybe you’ll look me up. Maybe the first thing you find is this: Shannon Tweed Simmons is “…one of the most successful actresses of mainstream erotica.… Tweed lives with her husband Gene Simmons, co-lead singer of Kiss, and their two children.… [She] is also known for Gene Simmons Family Jewels, a TV reality show that portrayed the life of her family…”

So, let’s get real…about sex and sexual satisfaction (known here as The Purring V). In real life nobody fucks half as long as they do in porn movies, and nobody screams out in ecstasy for that long either. The reality of sex is a lot of silence (and grunting). The reality is that you have to identify your own route to pleasure on the map that is your own body, which will enable you to give your partner direction. The reality is that we all have our own secret fantasies, so find yours and keep it to yourself. Use your imagination, which ultimately means that this thing called sexual satisfaction is a lot up to you.”

—Shannon Tweed Actress & Model


Don’t we all secretly wonder if we are sexually normal? But then what is sexually normal anyway? What does it mean? Does it even exist? I hear so many questions on this topic. They take the form of: How often do women normally orgasm in vaginal intercourse? In oral sex? How often do women fake it? How often do women normally masturbate? Think about it: Gather a cultural cross-section of a hundred “normal” women in a room. Will they look the same? Be of the same height and weight? Have the same morning routine, the same number of freckles and gray hairs? Of course not. And believe me, their vaginas will all have their own dimensions and personalities! According to a recent study from the University of Montreal, sexual desires and behaviors that are considered abnormal in psychiatry are actually the norm. So, unfortunately, there’s no one-size-fits-all answer when it comes to sexual norm, but there is a way to help you understand your own normal—your own sexuality.

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